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Marriage is a connection between individuals which has
formed the foundation of the family for most societies.
Marriage can include legal, social, and religious
elements. In Western societies, marriage has
traditionally been understood as a contract between a
man (husband) and a woman (wife), while in other parts
of the world polygamy has been the most common form of
marriage. Usually this has taken the form of polygamy (a
man having several wives) but some societies have
practiced polyandry (a woman having several husbands).
In some western societies today, same-sex marriages or
civil partnerships are legally recognized, but remain a
highly controversial issue in most.
Marriage remains important as the socially sanctioned
bond in a sexual relationship. Marriage is usually
understood as a male-female relationship designed to
produce children and successfully socialize them.
Historically, most societies have allowed some form of
polygamy. The West is a major exception. Europe and the
United States have defined themselves as monogamous
cultures. This was in part a Germanic cultural
tradition, a requirement of Christianity (after the
sixth century CE), and a mandate of Roman Law.
Globally, most existing societies no longer allow
polygamy as a form of marriage. For example, China
shifted from allowing polygamy to supporting only
monogamy in the 1953 Marriage act after the Communist
revolution. Most African and Islamic societies continue
to allow polygamy (around 2.0 billion people). This
includes India where polygamy is permitted for Muslim
citizens. Probably, less than 3% of all Muslim marriages
are polygamous. It is increasingly expensive in an Urban
setting, but more useful in rural areas where children
are a future source of agricultural labor. Most of the
world's population now live in societies where polygamy
is less common and marriages are overwhelmingly
monogamous.
Since the later decades of the 20th century many
traditional assumptions about the nature and purpose of
marriage and family have been challenged, in particular
by gay rights advocacy groups, who disagree with the
notion that marriage should be exclusive man and wife.
Some people also argue that marriage may be an
unnecessary legal fiction. This is part of the general
disruption of traditional families in the West. Since
WWII the West has seen a dramatic increase in divorce
(6% to over 40% of first marriages), cohabitation
without marriage, a growing unmarried population, and
children born outside of marriage (5% to over 33% of
births), as well as an increase in adultery (8% to over
40%). A system of somewhat serial monogamy has de facto
emerged. Still, legally recognized non-monogamous
marriage arrangements are extremely rare.
In modern times, the term marriage is generally reserved
for a union that is formally recognized by the state
(although some people disagree). The phrase legally
married can be used to emphasize this point. In the
United States there are two methods of receiving state
recognition of a marriage: common law marriage and
obtaining a marriage license. The majority of US states
do not recognize common law marriage. Many localities do
support various types of domestic partnerships.
Since the 12th century, marriage or holy matrimony has
been a sacrament in the Catholic Church, as well as
other Orthodoxies, where it is defined as a relationship
between a man and a woman. The Protestant Reformation
reformulated marriage as a life-long covenant. Marriage
of some kind is found in most societies, and typically
married people form a nuclear household, which is often
subsequently extended biologically, through children. In
the West the nuclear family emerged after 1100. Most
non-Western societies have a broader definition of
family that includes an extended family network.
Alternatively, people may choose to be "childfree".
Finally, they may be childless due to infertility, and
possibly seek treatment or consider adoption. The term
wedlock is a synonym for marriage, and is mainly used in
the phrase "out of wedlock" to describe a child born of
parents who were not married. |