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Marriage Missing it's Spark?
By Slade Hartwell
If the fires of passion in your marriage have been
reduced nearly to embers, then you are not alone. One of
the most common problems that can damage a marriage is
the loss of spark…or spice, or whatever you like to call
it.
It’s really not so easy to get yourself or your partner
“in the mood” once you have become very familiar with
each other. Of course, it’s wonderful to be familiar
with your spouse because familiarity is the basis of
intimacy. But intimacy is not the same as passion, is
it? Routine is the culprit. If the proper
countermeasures are not deployed against routine’s
assault on your relationship, then it will drain all the
passion right out of your marriage. Routine is a
tenacious killer of passion…a suspect in the deaths of
over 1 million steamy romances. I know routine comes in
very handy for showers and oil changes, but it has no
place in the bedroom. Fight it! Fight boredom and
routine! It’s going to take a little effort to rekindle
those flames, but armed with the right tactics you will
succeed! Some of the ideas I will mention may seem
rather basic, and most are simple and easy. Just try
them. You have already begun to make more of an effort
by reading this article; now don’t just think about how
nice it would be to do some of these things with your
spouse…the only way for this to happen is for you to
take action!
Have you ever noticed how a change of venue can be very
exciting? That’s right…just being together in a place
that’s not your bedroom can have an almost magical
effect. Use this strange phenomenon to your advantage.
Get yourselves a nice hotel room on a Saturday night.
First have dinner, and then go for a swim in the hotel
pool. Be playful and flirty with your spouse. Don’t put
any pressure on them; just be affectionate and playful
throughout the evening together and let things happen
naturally. A hand on their thigh, a whisper in their ear
or a kiss on the neck are all great for reminding your
partner what's waiting for them. Now, go up to your room
and let the strange surroundings take effect.
Try reading your spouse an erotic bedtime story. Let it
be spontaneous. Don’t let them know it’s a sexy story
before you begin, maybe even disguise the book with a
different cover. This can be an easy way to get your
spouse to try something new. If they hear it in the
story, then it might be their idea to try it. Most
people of either sex find erotic stories to be very
arousing.
Bring a video camera into the bedroom. Be careful, but
have fun. Actually it’s the element of danger and the
sense of voyeurism that makes this exciting.
Buy a sexy little costume to surprise your spouse with.
Ladies, men always have and always will love the sexy
French maid outfit. Men, never let your wives see you in
a dingy pair of tighty-whities.
Write notes to your spouse. Hide a romantic message in a
briefcase or handbag. In fact, it’s little romantic
gestures that help lay the groundwork for romance
building. Let your partner know that they excite you.
They will be excited knowing that you’re excited. Send
flowers for no special occasion, just to delight the
love of your life.
The key is just making a small effort. Changing things
up for excitement, and making little romantic gestures.
When your spouse sees you making an effort to bring back
the passion, they will make one right along with you.
Slade Hartwell, Webmaster at http://www.ezromantic.com
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